I know. I know you feel alone……. like your world has crashed. Your marriage is over. You feel like you’re drowning and straining, gasping for air. You’re confused. Crushed. Sad. Ashamed. Hurt.
Your marriage is over and it doesn’t make sense. You are blindsided
Why me, Lord? You ask. Am I not pretty enough? Smart enough? Wasn’t I a good wife? I know that I wasn’t perfect, but neither is my girlfriend and her family is still “complete”…..Why wasn’t I enough?
You cry yourself to sleep every night. You can only sleep if you play that worship song in the background. Your mind keeps running in a thousand different directions. You replay it all. The things he said. How he said them…… The things he didn’t say. How it doesn’t fit together……Why didn’t you pick up on the fact that something was wrong, really wrong in your marriage?
Your marriage is over and you feel out of place in all the places where you used to be one of the girls.
The women’s prayer meeting at church feels like torture…. while other voices are fervently raised, praying for husbands, you ask yourself, “which husband?”. Your marriage is suddenly over. You used to be one of those girls who laughed at others who say their marriage fell apart “all of a sudden” and “they didn’t know……”. You used to laugh and say, “yeah, right, how stupid not to know”. You’re not laughing anymore. Now….the joke is on you.
I know how you feel. Because I have been there. Confused. Hurt. Bewildered. Ashamed. How? Why? What did I do wrong? Why wasn’t I enough? Hillsong’s “You are my strength” was the only lullaby that could put me to sleep…. bloodshot eyes at work…… making excuses about “allergies”.
Your marriage is over but you are not alone!!!
Unfortunately, all over the world, there is a tribe of women, walking the same seemingly difficult, tear-soaked road that you’re on now. Some have gone before you. Many will come behind you. Some, you will know. You may even have admired their “perfect” marriage. Others will be strangers, but sisters nonetheless. You are trudging along, limping beside your fellow road-weary travelers.
You are not alone!!!!
I feel your pain. I know the sharp sting of rejection. The hurt of realizing that your marriage is over and maybe it was all a lie? The confusion of wondering “what part was real?”, “how did this happen”? We prayed together….doesn’t the family that “prays together, stay together?” We even fasted together, didn’t we serve God together? How did I end up here?
I know!! I know how you feel!! But the pain won’t last forever.
I promise! The sun will shine again! You will dance in the rain again and sing at the top of your lungs with music blasting from your car radio. You will laugh again, hope again, dream again, maybe even love again. If you just hold on to the One who will never leave you, never abandon you. The One whose love is loyal. If you just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
You’ll be fine. I promise. Just keep your eyes on the Son. And be patient.
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8 Comments
Looove the second to last paragraph! How poignant. How true. I just myself needed to be reminded of it. God bless you so much for speaking truth into the hearts of many.
We all need to be reminded of the truth when the lie is staring us in the face! Thank you.
Wow. I was blindsided several years ago with divorce. The good news? God restores. After a time of healing, God sent me a second “Plan A” that is way better than the first.
Yay!!! I love hearing stories like yours! The key is that “God sent” isn’t it? Many people go looking in all the wrong places (again) and end up in the same broken place!! Thank you for sharing! I pray you enjoy a lifetime of joy with God’s plan A!!💕
I think some people just need to truly hear that they are not alone when it comes to divorce, especially sudden divorce. Thanks for sharing.
Yes! It can be such an isolating experience, especially when you don’t have any close family or friends that have experienced it. Thanks for dropping by!
Divorce does often bring thoughts of failure and not being good enough. The truth is that God allows these things to happen in order to set us up for better things that we can’t yet see! Once we get past the hurt and all the other negative feelings, we’ll can then see that it was all part of God’s plan. So many great things can come from what seems like the worst thing in the world!
Yes!! God is an expert at bringing beauty out of the ashes of our mistakes and broken pasts! Thank you for sharing these great truths!