Girl!! There’s nothing like an unwanted divorce to beef-up that prayer life!!😂
Seriously……I love what divorce trauma has done for my relationship with God. My prayers are no longer filled with meaningful-sounding, God-ego-boosting phrases that really mean nothing. Now, they are so very raw. Honest. Heartfelt.
I took my broken heart to God by being really open with Him in prayer. He already knows all the awful thoughts bouncing around in my mind, so why not tell him? And the really cool thing about God is that He won’t turn around and tell that person what you said! “What happens in prayer, stays in prayer!” So you can vent all you want! No brainer.
In the words of the famous hymn, divorce trauma taught me how to “take it to the Lord in prayer”.
When the threats of divorce first began and I was fighting for my marriage, I fasted, cried, pleaded with God to change his mind and cause him to “come back to his senses” and our home. I spent many days on the floor of my bedroom closet, soaking the carpet with my tears as I poured my heart out to God. My broken heart felt so very shattered.
As it became clear that my ex’s mind was made up, and as I truly felt like God had released me, my prayers began to address what was ahead.
I began to pray about the divorce process
I sincerely sought God’s wisdom about what to fight for and asked for His grace to know what to let go. I asked God for help with the mediation process. I petitioned heaven for my children.
I wrestled in prayer about the future that loomed so frighteningly before me. How would I raise 2 kids by myself? I had a 3-week old baby when he left and was still recovering emotionally and physically from my cesarean section. How would I get through the days ahead with my mind intact?
Oh! but God! How God came through! He carried me, strengthened me, helped me through it all. Even in those early days, I experienced a peace in the middle of the storm that only God can give. God is real. Kind. Faithful.
God hears and answers prayers!
Early in the divorce process, the angels probably cringed when they saw me coming, “here comes nutjob Cheks! Lord, what should we do with her today?” 😂 My prayers are typically more PG-rated now. When I pray, I tell him exactly how I feel.
I hear you say “hold on!! Cheks! What do you mean when you say that God hears and answers prayers?
You prayed for God to save your marriage and you’re divorced! How’s that an answer to prayer?”.
Remember that thing called free will? God is not a bully; He won’t force us to do what we don’t want to do. I have also learned that “No” can be a better answer than “Yes”.
Even as a mere mortal mama, there are many times that I really want to give my child what he’s asking for at that moment, but I know that what he wants is not good for him. So, I say “No”, even as it breaks my heart to do so. How much more my heavenly father? He knows best and I trust His plan.
Vent to your Heavenly Father. He knows how you feel and he cares! He can handle your broken heart. Tell him exactly how you feel. No need for filters. God knows and He sees.
He feels your pain and understands what you’re going through. Divorce may have taken you by surprise, but it didn’t take your heavenly father by surprise.
God saw your divorce coming and made provision way before you got here to see you through and ensure you come out on the other side:
Whole. Healed. Beautiful!
Hang in there girlfriend! All will be well. You’ll see.