What do I do now? Where do I turn? How do I begin to put the broken pieces of my life back together?
I hear your questions.
Fear during divorce is normal.
I remember having all the same questions and more. I’m mother of two great kids, our older child was almost 7 years old and our baby was only 3 weeks old when my now ex-husband told me that his heart was no longer in our marriage and he wanted a divorce because he was unhappy. We had been married for just over 8 years. What does that mean? I asked. What about our children? Why? At the time, I didn’t get any answers that made sense to me. So, I had to turn to another source.
Intimacy with God is the antidote to your fear during divorce.
I leaned on God like never before and drew strength from Him. I was also blessed with an amazing biological and church family. God really surrounded me with many who held me up in prayer, supported and encouraged me through what was an incredibly difficult time. God, being the good father that he is, had also pre-arranged help for me with my new baby. He also led me to a divorce recovery group that was a great source of encouragement as we met weekly and discussed our various issues and prayed for each other. God had a plan to see me through.
So, as you go through your own storm and have many questions, know that God is the only one that can give you an answer of peace. I urge you to do the following as you are able:
Lean on God.
Find a faith-based divorce recovery group.
Allow close friends and family to help you.
Don’t isolate yourself from others.
An anchor scripture for me in this season is Isaiah 41:10 “fear not, for I am with you. Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my righteous right hand”
Psalm 34:4 should also encourage you. “I sought the Lord and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears” verse 15 of the same chapter says “the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their cry”
Lean heavily on God. Cast all your cares upon Him. He can take it.
Allow God to help you through this season.