I’m sure you know that you can change your life at any time, right? So, why wait to make new year resolutions when you can change your life right now? What differences would you like to see in your life? If you haven’t spent any time thinking about this, set aside some time to analyze the different aspects of your life and figure out what needs to change.
Change your life! Starting…NOW!
If you don’t plan, you won’t experience the changes that you desire.
4 crucial ways to change your life NOW!
I’ve been working on some of my areas for change over the past few years. However, I still have greater strides to make and want to see deep changes in several important areas of my life. I’m sharing my list for you to consider if you also want to change your life and experience greater peace and joy.
1) Change your life forever by developing greater intimacy with God
I deeply desire a closer walk with my heavenly father. If you asked me which one thing you should do to change your life, this would be it! All of the answers to every question and the solution to every need lie with Him.
The Bible says
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God who gives generously to all without reproach and it will be given Him” – James Chapter 1 verse 5
This year, I’ve enjoyed using the bible study journal that my home church provides to read through the Bible in one year. The discipline of getting in God’s word daily and spending time in prayer has left me more peaceful and joyful than I’ve been in previous years.
Going forward, I want to take it up a notch! I want to get in the discipline of writing down what I’m learning from God, every single day. Regular fasting is another discipline I want to develop as I find that it helps me silence all the noise, clear my mind and focus on God. I want to know God’s heart more and be so close to Him that I hear every whisper from His lips to my soul; I want to be more deeply rooted and satisfied in Him.
Do you really want to change your life? Make a decision to get to know your Abba, Father. Like every other relationship, this one will grow deeper if you spend time with Him…no shortcuts. Let’s get disciplined about setting aside time every day to talk to God and read His word. You’ll be surprised at how much this will change your life. You’ll learn to tell right from wrong and you’ll gain wisdom for everyday life.
2) Develop deeper friendships to change your life now
I find that making friends…of the deep, meaningful kind is difficult as an adult. While I have many people that I call friends, only a small subset of this group would fall into the “close, deep” category. I spent some time thinking about this recently and I realized that the friendships that I would consider close are mostly with people that I’ve known for a very long time.
Most of these are my childhood friends and even though I haven’t seen most of them in a really long time, when we talk, it feels like we just hung out yesterday. They’ve known me and my biological family for most of my life. I can be myself with them…no filters, no second guessing what I have to say. Just plain, old me. As I moved to another country as an adult, the geographic distance just makes it impossible to see these friends often.
I believe that deep, meaningful relationships have the potential to change your life. The Bible says in Ecclesiastes Chapter 4 verse 9 that “two are better than one….”. Most times, this verse is referenced in relation to marriage, but I believe it’s meaning is broader and relates to relationships in general.
We need each other! No one is an island. It’s disheartening that in our modern world, while we are more accessible to others (thanks to social media and technology), we seem to be more disconnected from each other than ever! I’m asking God for the blessing of some new close friendships and I’m also working on noticing the people that God places around me instead of hurriedly going about my day.
This realization also had me thinking about dating and why rushing relationships is such a bad idea. It takes a long time in a platonic, same-sex relationship to get to the point where we can call another person a close friend and truly know them. So, why do we think that a few months of dating, with the rush of emotions and the tendency to be on our best behavior, is enough for us to decide that he is “the one”? It’s crazy when you really think about it! But, I digress…that’s a conversation for another day.
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3) A Solid financial strategy
How are your finances? Maybe you’re pretty decent at budgeting and saving. It’s time to take your game to the next level! How are you going to change your life by multiplying your finances?
Research by Fidelity Investments indicates that even though 90% of women will have to manage their finances on their own at some point in life, we are much less prepared than men. I’m working on becoming more investment savvy. Whether it’s real estate or the stock market, I’m going to invest in education about how to make money work for me even while I sleep.
If you’re a single mom like me, you may be reading this and chuckling because you are barely making ends meet and you can’t imagine having anything left to save not to talk about investing. I understand, but you have to start dreaming several steps ahead of where you are right now! I’m certain that you want a more secure financial future for yourself and your kids. What steps are you going to take now to get you moving along to where you want to be?
Solid finances will make your single motherhood journey much easier! You’ll be able to pay for the help you need and reduce some of the stress of doing it all. Single moms can create wealth too! Don’t let anyone tell you different. Let’s do this mama and show our children that hard work and perseverance pay big dividends!
4) Change your life forever by practicing consistent self-care
It’s too easy as moms to focus on our kids and forget about yourselves. But I’ve decided that I will set aside time regularly to do the things that I enjoy! Yes, you heard me right. I will begin to include myself in my schedule!
There are things that I enjoy that I haven’t done in years because I’ve let motherhood and stress get in the way. But, not anymore! I’ve realized that being consumed with stress doesn’t fix anything. After I’m done worrying, whatever issue I’m fixated on at the moment will still be waiting. So, what’s the point? I intend to enjoy life more and stop letting fear and worry steal my life.
Change your life by taking care of yourself. You can’t give what you don’t have! If you’re a single mom, you’ll be a better parent for your kids when you are centered and living full of peace and joy. Self-care can help you accomplish these. What are the things that replenish your soul? Whether it’s reading, taking walks, dancing, spending time at the spa, budget for (both time and money) and begin to replenish your tank by enjoying those activities.
Ok! So you have it. These are the things I’m working on to change my life and I think you can change your life by putting these into practice as well. What other things can you think of? Please share below so we can all help each other.